Friday, January 12, 2007

"Why you makin' the sad face, Mommy?"

Because my friend Heather is being induced tomorrow.

Tomorrow morning, she'll welcome her fifth child. Alone.

This is the friend who's husband was killed in the plane crash in November.

Read here and here.

And I'm sitting here, crying. Not the pretty, droplet running down my cheek, but full fledged bawling.

My heart aches for her. I wish I knew how to be a better friend. I wish I was physically closer so I could help. I wish I could do more than send a card ever other week or so. I wish I could do more than hold her close in my thoughts and prayers. I wish I could scoop her up in a big hug and tell her 'it will all be all right.' I wish I had the guts to call her, but I don't want to end up a blubbering mess on the other end of the phone. I wish she didn't have to go through this. I wish, for once, I knew why this happened.


Tree said...

My thoughts are with her, too.

Girl In Her Underwear said...

OH, how sad! That's heart-wrenching. My prayers to her. I can't even comprehend the pain that would involve.
You sound like a wonderful friend to care so much though. I think that's good for your children to see.

Dan said...

Part of me knows what she's going through - when we lost Bethany, Tamsyn was born exactly four weeks later, and what should have been a joyous occasion was so bittersweet.

Hang in there honey, I can tell you that the fact she knows you care is enough. Don't feel bad about calling, even if you call or get upset. A friendly voice on a phone or a cheery email is enough to remind that person that they have friends still :)

g-man said...

I'm with Dan, she will only feel alone if no one calls. If you cant be there in person the phone is the next best thing. You can share, and that is what is important.

schloobie said...

I am so sorry.

sillychick said...

She may need to know that you hurt, too. She may be feeling really alone in her grief and to share it may help her.
Thoughts of you and her coming from me.